Model for a Biblical Appeal
God has placed on my heart this year as you have seen previously in my weekly emails a desire to share several key Kingdom Parenting principles with our families. As an older parent, God has shown me through His Word and my experiences many things that I hope will be a blessing to you.
One of those nuggets that He has given me involves some of the greatest struggles that we can face as parents. Specifically, this involves how to teach our children to approach us when they disagree. As in all of life's issues, I believe that the Bible provides us with clear principles that can help us in this area. I would like to share with you this morning a model that I unveiled to our teachers before school began that not only can help them in dealing with students but also will help them as parents in this area of conflict or disagreement.
I want to provide you with a Biblical model for teaching our children how to appeal to their parents or teachers when they disagree with us in regards to any issue. The model found in God's Word involves Jesus, the Son of God, in how He approached and appealed to His Father in regards to an issue that troubled Him. The backdrop for this Biblical model is found in the Garden of Gethsemane where Jesus appealed to His Father about God's plan for Him to suffer and die on our behalf. I want you to see below the process that Jesus used for a Biblical appeal.
Notice where Jesus was.... The setting
He was alone-He made an appointment
A key teaching tool for us here is to instruct our children to always talk to us privately about issues that they may disagree with us about and not just blurt out the problem in front of others.
Notice the tone in His voice- He was respectful and not argumentative
The key here is to teach our children that the best way for us to listen is to approach us respectfully.
Notice His posture/His Body Language
He was humble and respectful
A great teaching tool here is to instruct our children that nonverbal communication can destroy the message that they are trying to communicate.
Notice His presentation, His appeal
Jesus asked if it was possible but He also said I will still obey you no matter your answer when He said "Not my will but yours be done." What a great model for our kids for life to learn that inmaking an appeal to ask but also to say that no matter what you decide I will still obey.
As stated earlier, this is the model I gave for our teachers to begin using in training students how to make appeals with them in areas of disagreement. I pray that this Biblical model may help you as you raise your children.