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KINGDOM PARENTING - "Allowing Failure"

November 09, 2012
By Rev. Rick Calloway

Kingdom parenting sometimes requires following paths that can be very difficult. One of those areas that can be very difficult for us as parents is to realize sometimes we need to allow our children to fail. God's Word teaches that trials and tribulations enhance not only our spiritual foundation but our children's as well. 

James 1:2-3 tells us "My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials. Knowing this, that the trying of your faith worketh patience." Hebrews 12:11 also declares that "Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peacable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby. 

These verses remind us clearly that trials and tribulations do indeed build upon our spiritual foundation and bring fruit to our lives. It is a natural instinct for us as parents to want to intervene and end all troubles that come our children's way but sometimes we need to let the trying of their faith have its complete work. No trial or failure is joyful but God promises that as we let them run their course and trust Him then He stands prepared to do something great in our lives afterwards. 

As my kids have grown up, it was hard to see them encounter a trial or fail at something. Those times broke my heart and I wanted to fix it all. When I have followed James 1 and 1Peter 1 and not tried to fix it all but love them through it, I have seen God bring about real fruit in their lives following these trials or failures. I pray these verses will be a blessing to you today as you seek God's best for your children. 

Finally, I really enjoyed seeing our middle and high school bands perform Monday night. We are truly blessed to have such wonderfully talented musicians in our school!