What Goal Do We Need to Have for Raising Kids?
“We will not hide these truths from our children we will tell the next generation about the glorious deeds of the Lord, about His power and His mighty wonders. For He issued His laws to Jacob; He gave His instructions to Israel. He commanded our ancestors to teach them to their children, so the next generation might know them—even the children not yet born and they in turn will teach their own children. So each generation should set its hope anew on God, not forgetting His glorious miracles and obeying His commands.” Psalm 78:4-7
As my wife and I raised our children, we regularly sought God for how to do the difficult job of a parent and more importantly determining our goals. What would really be the best things we could do for our kids as they were growing up? As a parent, we are faced with so many choices that impact the raising of our children and their future. I believe that all of us face the pressure as parents to do the right thing for our children.
Psalm 78:4-7 is a great passage for helping us to find the goals we, as followers of Christ, need to have for raising our children. This passage reminds us of the main goals that God has in mind for this process. First, God is instructing us to intentionally teach the truths of God to our children. Our goal should be to teach them of “His power and His mighty wonders.” The goal is to teach and live out our faith in such a way that it becomes a legacy of faith that will be passed to future generations of our family.
The ultimate goal is found in the phrase: “So each generation should set its hope anew on God, not forgetting His glorious miracles and obeying His commands.” God’s goals are not the goals that this world would have for our kids to find peace, joy, and truly what is best for them in this life.
I ran across something that Dr. Glen Schultz wrote a few years back that provides a great perspective on choosing what is best for our children. His wisdom in choosing not what is good for our children but what is best goes as follows:
- Seek not what is important, but what is essential.
- Seek not glamour, but godliness.
- Seek not a place that gives your children opportunities to socialize; seek first that which gives your children opportunities for servant hood.
- Seek not to increase their fun; seek to increase their faith.
- Seek not tools to make them rich: seek first to give them tools to make them righteous.
- Seek not what makes your kids happy; seek first what makes your kids holy.
- Seek first the Kingdom of heaven and His righteousness, and then sit back and claim God's promise that every single thing your children needs to fulfill God's perfect plan for their lives will be given unto them.
God gave my wife and I the wisdom years ago to chase His goals for our children. God has continually blessed this decision in our lives over the years and returned to us so much more in who our children are in Christ than we could have ever imagined. I pray that the wisdom from Psalm 78 and Dr. Schultz will be a blessing to you as you parent your children and make the difficult choices that you make on behalf of your children each day.