One of the Greatest Gifts We Can Give Our Children
“So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” Ephesians 5:33
We spend a lot of time and money trying to figure out what kind of gifts to give our children each year. It is natural for us as parents to want to do good things for them. However, I have learned that the best gifts we can give our kids do not cost money. One of the greatest gifts we can give our children is a loving marriage with our spouse. Unfortunately, this is one thing that does not happen like it always should.
In fact, research tells us a lot about the state of marriage in America. A recent report states that there is one divorce approximately every 36 seconds. That's nearly 2,400 divorces per day, 16,800 divorces per week and 876,000 divorces a year. The average length of a marriage that ends in divorce is eight years.
It is too bad that many marriages in America are divided and many are in daily turmoil. I have counseled with so many people over the years who have confided in me that they have “fallen out of love” with each other. I have never understood what that means exactly. I do know that God intended for us to love our spouse in the way He prescribes.
How are we supposed to love our spouse? For me, Ephesians 5:25-26 says it all: “For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up His life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word.”
For husbands, we are to love our wives as Christ loved the church. How did He love the church? He gave His life for the church. He gave sacrificially to the church. We are to do the same for our spouses.
I always desired something greater out of marriage. I have been blessed to be married to the love of my life for 31 years. I echo something Andy Stanley said: “There are men who make history, there are men who change the world, and there are men like me that simply find the right girl.”
I also know that God has commanded us as followers of Christ to approach marriage so differently than the world. In Ephesians 5:33, Paul instructs husbands to love their wives like they do themselves and for wives to respect their husbands.
Outside of the truth of God’s Word, the greatest advice I ever received on marriage came from my dad. He told me that one of the greatest gifts I could ever give my children was to love their mother.
Have we positioned our marriages to leave this kind of gift for our children? May God bless each of you as you seek to live out a Godly marriage in front of your children!