In the last two weeks, I have begun to share with you a Biblically based strategy entitled “TRAIN” for raising Godly children and building a Kingdom family. As you recall, the “T” stood for “Transcendent Purpose and Big Picture and the “R” stood for a “Heart and Reverence for God and the Foundation of Honor and Respect.”
The “A” portion of the strategy stands for “A 3D Strategy Called Discipline, Discernment, and Direction.” The idea behind this portion of the strategy is that Biblical discipline in the lives of our children will produce discernment and direction in their lives. Ephesians 6:4 tells us to bring our children “up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.” We are to bring them to maturity. Specifically, this idea of Biblical maturity would include training them in self-control, wisdom, and responsibility. Our children learning self-control will give them favor with God and responsibility will give them favor with man.
What should be the Biblical goals for discipline? First, discipline should cause them to have a proper attitude and respect. Second, it should cause them to take responsibility for what they have done. Next, it should cause them to submit to the consequences of their actions. It will also seek to correct unbroken rebellion. Finally, the goal for us as parents is to know when to use discipline.
I have separated my children’s disobedience into two categories over the years to help guide me in how to discipline them. First, there is willful and intentional disobedience. They clearly knew in this situation what they were doing and chose willfully to disobey. The Book of Proverbs addresses this in many places such as 13:24, 29:15, 29:17, 19:18, 23:13, and 22:15. With willful disobedience, I always created a more severe consequence such as spanking when they were small.
The second category I have used is that of “thoughtless disobedience”. These are times when they are disobedient through carelessness or impulsive, irresponsible acts. In these situations, I always wanted to create a consequence that relates to the failure. For instance, if the toys were left out I might suspend the use of the toys for a time period or if laziness was the issue they might receive additional chores.
Following a Biblical model for discipline will produce discernment and direction in the lives of our children. Hebrews 5:14 tells us that “those who by reason of use have their senses exercised to discern both good and evil.”In other words, one of the goals we should desire for our children is that they would be good and Godly decision makers. Biblical discipline in their lives will help to instill that level of discernment in their lives.
Finally, Hebrews 12:11 reminds us that “Now no chastening for the present time seemed to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yielded the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby.”What a promise from God that even now disciplining is not a lot of fun, but it will produce clear Biblical direction for our children that will benefit our children forever.
May God continue to bless you as you seek Him in raising your children!
Last week, I began to share with you a strategy entitled “TRAIN” for guiding us in raising Godly children. This week I would like to provide you with the “R” portion of “TRAIN”. This portion stands for training our kids to have a heart and reverence for God and to build in them a foundation of honor and respect.
King Solomon, on his deathbed, told us in Proverbs 4:23 “To guard our hearts for out of it come all the issues of life.” Solomon also told us in Ecclesiastes 12:13 to “Fear God, and keep His commandments; for this is the whole duty of man.”
God is teaching from these passages how important it is for us to guard our hearts so that our hearts will be turned towards God, and to build into our lives a fear and reverence for God. As parents, this is the lifestyle that we must model for our children so that we can guide them in this same pursuit.
The Bible tells us in Luke 2:52 that Jesus grew up into adulthood by pursuing wisdom, stature, favor with man, and favor with God. What better way for us to follow the pattern for how Jesus was raised for our children than to model and instruct our children to have a heart for God and reverence for Him.
I am convinced that the greatest legacy we can leave our children is to model for them daily how much we love God and desire to please Him. From there, we must help them as Solomon admonished to guard their hearts daily from the destructive culture that we live in. I pray that these passages will be a blessing to you as you point your children towards God.
Also, I look forward to hearing feedback from our parents in the coming weeks through our new Parent Roundtable and our annual Coffee. Your feedback is so crucial to us in helping us to make continual improvements in our program. You will also be receiving information shortly about our annual parent survey that will take place in October.
The Cornerstone Annual Fund Kick off is beginning next week and I will be sharing in a separate email next week our focus in fundraising this year. I am so excited about all that God has put on our hearts in improving our school and providing more opportunities for our students.
Finally, all I can say about Spiritual Emphasis Week in the Upper School with evangelist Frank Shelton is Wow! God moved so mightily amongst our students and staff! To Him be all the glory for what took place this week.
Over the next few weeks, I want to share some insight from God’s Word that I pray will be a blessing to you as you strive to raise Godly kids. The strategy that I want to share with you is best remembered with the acronym “TRAIN”. “TRAIN” is a Biblically-based strategy for raising children to be spiritual champions. The “T” in “TRAIN” stands for Transcendent Purpose and Big Picture. This part of the strategy calls for us to give our children Something and Someone bigger than ourselves to live for. In other words, we want to teach our children that God has a purpose and a plan for our lives and that life is all about following His agenda.
2 Corinthians 4:18 is the foundational scripture of the “T” part of the strategy. It declares: “While we look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen; for the things which are seen are temporary; but the things which are not seen are eternal.” Using this verse as a focus, we can seek to give our kids a global and eternal view of life so that they might live for someone and something bigger than themselves.
In addition, the “T” part of the strategy provides us the platform to instill in our kids that there is absolute truth in life and that truth comes from God. Also, we want to teach our children that the greatest honor of life is to serve and meet the needs of others.
If we can utilize the “T” part of the strategy in raising our children, then we can help them to better find their purpose in life as God designed it especially for them. I am confident that when they do so that they will find the “abundant life” that Jesus promised to each of us.
Finally, we are continuing to focus on many improvement projects for our school in the coming months. We have been busy meeting with playground experts as we looking at major upgrades to our playgrounds as the school year progresses. Also, we are looking at continuing to expand technology integration on our campus as we plan for the purchase and implementation of iPad labs later this fall. We completed Wi-Fi installation in the summer and will begin to utilize many more tools for technology integration in the near future.
We are committed as a school to continual improvement in all that we do because our students deserve our best everyday! So, in keeping with advancing our technology, thanks to Brandon Reeves and Bob Mayberry Hyundai, we will be giving away an iPad Mini at the halftime of tonight’s 7pm game. One contest entry per game ticket. You must be present to win.
Thanks for your support and love!
“I have a dream that one day every valley shall be exalted, every hill and mountain shall be made low, the rough places will be made plain, and the crooked places will be made straight, and the glory of the Lord shall be revealed.”- Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. - August 28, 1963
What a great dream and prayer that Dr. King had that the glory of the Lord be revealed in our lives and in our nation. As I pondered these words, I too have a deep desire that God's glory be revealed in the lives of our students and staff here at Metrolina. My prayer is that we all would experience God as never before.
One of the things that I pray for our school is that the glory of the Lord would be revealed in the way in which we love others. A key part of the purpose of our school is to provide Christ-like love to all that we encounter. The apostle Paul stated in 1 Corinthians 13 “that without love we are nothing.”
In other words, it does not matter how great our academic scores are or how great our athletic teams if we do not have the love of God permeating this place. As parents, it does not matter if we can provide our kids with the best house or car if we do not show them the love of God. In my home, I want my children to know that I love them unconditionally and I also want them to see how much I love God.
I desperately want to pass onto my children and all of our students a passion for God and for His glory to be revealed in their lives. Our culture is so focused at times trying to get our kids things that are good, like an athletic scholarship or material possessions, but not spending enough time on the most important thing of them knowing God. The dream that I have for my kids and Metrolina students is that they all would do as Psalm 78:7 declares and “set their hope in God, and not forget the works of God, but keep His commandments.”
On another note, I so appreciate all of you that have signed up to be a volunteer on our campus this year. Metrolina would not be possible without the generous gifts of your time volunteering on our campus. I also appreciate all that our volunteer parents do to love on our faculty and staff during the year. You will never know how big of a blessing that is to our staff. If you have not signed up to volunteer, you can still do so by contacting our Project Serve Coordinator, Natalie Stachon.
Finally, our first home football game is tonight at 7 p.m. and it is a night in which we will welcome all of our new families to Metrolina. One of our existing parents, Andrea Schmitt, is doing a wonderful job with a great team of other volunteers to welcome our new families to the Metrolina family. I am so appreciative of their efforts and I am also grateful to God for the unique family atmosphere that exists in the Metrolina community.
I love you and love serving you!